Q:I'm in a serious long-distance relationship, we only see each other every 6 months or so. I'm in college and don't have a car to see him. I have this guilty little fantasy, it's not quite rape but it's one of those you're-gonna-get-tied-up-spanked-whipped-teased-and-fucked-and-there's-nothing-you-can-do-about-it fantasies. My man is so gentle, he sorta tolerates that side of me but doesn't like it. I just can't stop looking at porn, masturbating, thinking about him and it's hurting my grades >.<

Anonymous

I definitely know how you feel. I wouldn’t say my guy is exactly “gentle” but we don’t talk about sex or fantasies or anything and it’s hard for me but we click somehow anyway. As for the porn hurting your grades… I understand that also. I take online classes and every time I’m online I have about 4 windows open switching back and forth. Luckily it hasn’t hurt my grades too bad.